Healing

A friend asked me some questions about healing. Here was how the conversation went;

WHAT DOES HEALING MEAN TO YOU?

To me, healing is about granting yourself freedom. Freedom from giving life to a situation that is no longer a part of your reality. Freedom from projecting or being a victim of projection from someone else. Freedom from guaranteed disappointment manifested in the form of self sabotage and a lack mindset. Freedom from repeating the harmful patterns that causes you to need to healing in the first place. Freedom from victimhood. Freedom from conscious or unconscious suffering.

WHY ARE YOU HEALING?

I am healing because I noticed how much my defence mechanisms were hindering my ability to live my truth. I have always viewed myself as a kind hearted, loving soul and I realised I had become a cold & empty shell of myself. I was doing just enough to allow the world to think I was okay meanwhile I felt like I had lost my soul, I was frustrated at myself and the voice in my mind kept telling me I was failing. I knew my children didn’t deserve to have the type of mother I was becoming. So essentially, I’m healing for my children.

THE HARDEST PART OF HEALING?

Ooh, I’d say there are two that stick out for me, The first, is how isolating the journey is. Often times when you’re healing there aren’t many people that can understand and support you with what you’re going through, it can lead to feeling misunderstood, lonely and cause you to want to isolate even more.

The second, is consistency. It is difficult to stay consistent when it starts to hurt. Especially if you’re doing it solo. You have to be extremely determined to stay committed and remind yourself often then it is for your greater good, otherwise it’s easy to “leave things in the past” and allow them to continue affecting you.

WHAT IS ONE THING YOU WISH YOU KNEW ABOUT HEALING?

[laughs] That it’s not linear. And never ends! (Can that count as one?) many people think that healing is something that can be done one time then it’s over. Understanding that it’s okay to “relapse” be retriggered over something you thought you healed from etc. We have to give ourselves grace for that. At the end of the day we are here having human experiences, on this journey to learn. It’s okay to go back some steps. Just make sure you pick up some lessons along the way.